Thursday, May 16, 2013

SUSAN: POST "Hop Against Homophobia" and GIVEAWAY

Love Affair with an e-Reader is proud to be a part of the "Hop Against Homophobia and Transphobia" to bring attention to International Day Against Homophobia (May 17, 2013)!!!

Hi! I'm Susan, one of the reviewers on Love Affair with an e-Reader. I read and review M/M romance books.  It is my honor and pleasure to take part in this year's Hop Against Homophobia alongside some of my favorite authors, bloggers, and publishers.  Here's my story:

This is not a post about religion…it’s a post about love…

I grew up in a very charismatic Christian home and I was OBSESSED with the church...think "Jesus Camp" if you've ever seen the movie.  I was a Sunday school teacher, a youth group leader, and even a missionary for a time.  I JUDGED THE HELL out of every single person I thought was a "sinner” and I spread the gospel like a champ to “save” those that were lost. And in my mind, that included the gay community. (though to be fair, I was an equal opportunity judger.)

I was also MISERABLE. Guilt, shame, hatred, and never feeling "good enough" consumed me.

While living in San Francisco, I decided to participate in my church's prayer walk in the Castro (gay neighborhood). Armed with Bibles and determination, we walked the streets  praying for the "lost". The group I was with ended up getting into an altercation with some gay residents that turned violent both verbally and physically.  It was a hate crime. Totally appalled at what I was witnessing, I turned and ran home.


And then it hit me…this monumental revelation…I've been doing it ALL WRONG. God is not fire and brimstone and wrath and hate. GOD IS LOVE. Where the FUCK was the LOVE? In all my years as an active participant in the church, was LOVE ever the motivation…was it ever the goal?  And with this simple yet profound understanding, I renounced my guilt. I renounced my shame. I renounced my anger and my hate.  

And I opened up my life and my heart to all kinds of people and experiences that I would not have EVER been involved with in the past, and...I let myself LIVE - not under a title of "Christian" but under a mantra of "LOVE".

I've never been happier. 

Today, I am actively involved in the support of those who help LGBT youth. It breaks me to hear about kids being disowned and thrown out by their (most often) Christian families because of being gay. It terrifies me that if I had remained as I was in the past, I might have done the same thing. Thank GOD that my eyes and my heart were opened to a different way…a better way… a way of LOVE and acceptance and care.

As an active reader of M/M fiction (<- this also, obviously, would not have happened in the past! Ha!), I am proud to dedicate today’s blog post as part of the “Hop Against Homophobia” along with others in the LGBT literary community.  No matter if you believe in a higher power or not, call him/her God or something else…we can all stand to LOVE one another a little more…yes?


Because this is a book review blog (!!!!) and also because of my passion for LGBT youth, the giveaway is 2 parts:

$50 gift certificate to All Romance e-Books
$50 donation in your name to Lost & Found Youth

Enter to win by leaving a comment (a simple "in" or a smiley face will do! :) ) on this post. (Become a Follower of the blog and you'll be entered a SECOND time as well! Double your chances!) One winner will be selected at random at the end of the Hop (May 27th). 

Now, hop on to another blog and read another story w/ another giveaway!!!!


  1. While I already knew most of this about you Susan, reading it just now gave me chills. I can attest to the fact that you are "now" a beautiful, loving, non-judgmental human being and I'm very proud to know YOU.

  2. What a great story, Susan! Something about the fact that your revelation came in the Castro just makes it all the better. :) ((hugs))

  3. Hello, Susan! I'm so glad that you found the love, and very proud of you for making such a significant change in your life. You give me hope! ♥

  4. *HUGS* Susan, you NEVER cease to amaze me. I'm so proud and lucky to call you my friend! xoxo ~Jen/Wiz

  5. Thank you for sharing your story.

    I'm in.

  6. Great post! You wrote an amazing blog post here :)

  7. Thanks for sharing Susan and for your work with Hop Against Homophobia and Transphobia!


  8. susan, thank you so much for sharing such a personal part of yourself . . . amazing! you are such an amazing person . . .

  9. Loved your post. Amazing! Now that I know you have a blog I am following. :)

  10. YES! we certainly can stand to LOVE each other more....though I knew your touching story, it still moves me each time you share it. I am in awe with the love you spread! Thanks for being you...
    luv ya,

  11. Thank you for taking part in the hop!

    In order to combat hatred, we must spread love. Educate others, bring awareness, because every person who has their mind opened is one person closer to a world where homophobia and transphobia doesn’t exist.

  12. I love this story, Susan. You're so strong, so loving, and so GOOD. Thanks for being such a splendid advocate for love!

  13. It was wonderful of you to share such an intimate part of yourself. I admire you even more now. Thanks! :)

  14. Great story! Thanks for sharing and for hosting the contest. :)

  15. It's MEEEEEEE, MEEEEEE!!!! lol. Anyways, love the post and love the blog site. Please enter me into the contest. :)

  16. As a child, I was raised in a strong RC family and my Grandmother, bless her, attended church every single day. The thing is, she had a lesbian daughter and a gay grandson and they were loved by her and treated just as everyone else in the family was. I have to thank mamere for her example of loving acceptance of everyone(not that I knew this at the time)and making it a non issue in our family.

  17. That was a really wonderful post!

  18. Great post Susan! Love is all we need, just some LOVE.

  19. Thank you for your great post. Love is so important! Thanks for participating in the blog hop!

    awindandbooks at gmail dot com

  20. Yeah! You know where my heart is on this topic. We can all be allies, not bystanders!

  21. That was a wonderful post. Thank you for sharing and participating in the hop!


  22. Thank you for sharing Susan! Gives people a little more hope in humanity and their ability to change. It was lovely reading your story and post! :)


    1. Sorry! the email should be...


  23. You make my heart ache with how much love you have to give Susan. {{hugs}}

  24. Wow! That is...really damned incredible. I feel honored to (kind of) know you.

    Email is oddness_weirdness(at)

  25. Thanks for sharing and caring!

  26. Thank you so much for your post and participating in this amazing hop!

  27. Thank you for sharing your story, it was unexpected and I'm glad you saw through all of it and opened yourself to new experiences and ideas. Thank you for taking part in this hop!!

    humhumbum AT yahoo DOT com

  28. Such a brave and touching story...very inspiring!

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  29. Thanks so much for your post in this blog hop and for sharing your story! Such an important subject.
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  30. Great post! Thank you for taking part in the hop!
    GFC - Sherry S.
    sstrode at scrtc dot com

  31. Thank you for the post, I've followed your blog.

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  32. Hi! Wonderful post! Thanks for being apart of this fantastic hop! Its sad how some people are. Im happy to say, im glad were all different! I think being brave enough to say you love someone, no matter the sex, is amazing! People should find there happiness. Who cares what others think. The only people that matter, are the ones in the relationship. Too many people in this world are simple minded. Thanks for sharing! Have a wonderful night!
    GFC: shadow_kohler

  33. Thanks a bunch for sharing and participating!

    GFC: Emily


  34. Wow, what a great post! Truly shows the power of love and open-mindedness.

    Anastasia Vitsky